Fight or Flight

Yes, I have been tagged again. I am going to spread my responses over a few entries because I am just that interesting and cant bring myself to conform.

So the first time I heard about Fight or Flight I thought AHA! That explains me. I think I was reading a highschool psychology book. So in case you were wondering I am a FLIGHT personality. I dont do confrontations. When completely cornered, I have unpredictably BAD reactions. Generally I avoid, ignore, repress. My kids recognise this as "separate rooms". Rarely, if ever, they argue or fight. I simply say "separate rooms" and they know that means the two (or three) of them cannot be in the same room until they somehow work it out. Sort of like a group time out. I have always used this method (even when friends are over) and it has always worked. My good friend uses the opposite method (must be a fighter?) If two kids are not getting along, she locks them in a room together. They cannot come out until they have resolved the issue. She says it works every time. Interesting that both methods work. I find that I just avoid problems until they are no longer an issue. Sometimes if you ignore a problem it eventually goes away, works itself out, grows up, becomes less important, you get it. So the drawback here is in extreme circumstances... avoiding a person (which is too easy when you get busy), losing a relationship. With the other approach, lock yourselves up, talk it out. I can see how that wont always work. Sometimes opinions are too different. Usually emotions are high, participants are insecure, things get said that should never be said, and the situation blows up. Please dont try to lock me up. as I stated before, I react badly, unpredictably, at best I might sob uncontrollably and nothing good comes of that, at worst -well things have been thrown. Luckily John and I dont argue. Never have. Havent always agreed but usually "take a break" and come back to it later. Seriously. No raised voices, hardly ever say things that need to be taken back. Wonderful. And lucky for me, I dont have to live or work with anyone else so I can comfortably take the avoidance road. And that's the short anwer to Fight or Flight. Which are you?